My friend, a counselor, tells the story of a suicidal client who somehow managed to find out where he lives. This troubled person showed up on my friend's doorstep at dinner one night with the intention of ending his life then and there. Why? Because he figured that was a "safe" place to commit this final act. Let's think this through for a moment...is suicide safe anywhere? What's wrong with this picture? Before we are tempted to think that only someone in desperate straits would practice such convoluted thinking, let's remember we are all brainwashed about what is "safe" in Continue Reading

How do you feel today? Happy? Disappointed? Hopeless? Ecstatic?Irritated? Whatever feeling you are experiencing right now, it probably won't last forever.   Feelings are like the weather. The emotional climate of your heart changes all the time.   Feelings have an important role in our lives, but because they are all over the map, we get into trouble when we let them lead our behavior.   In days gone by, this wasn't a big problem, because feelings were not commonly discussed. One did one's work, children were to be seen and not heard, and feelings did not enter into Continue Reading

Have you noticed how exhausted people are? Everybody wants more energy. Everybody wants the stamina to enjoy life and accomplish some things, but it seems to elude us.   So what's to blame? Certainly our food is no longer pure,what with all the genetic engineering and toxic ingredients we've added to it.   But is that the only reason we're tired? Is it all about what we are eating (or not eating)?   Sometimes addressing those issues can help -- but there's another causative factor at work which has less to do with our nutrition and more to do with our lifestyles in Continue Reading

Ever suddenly notice a phrase or idea that everyone commonly uses, and then stop to think about whether you actually agree with it?   I'm not a big fan of group-think, so I find myself doing this fairly often.  The latest term I've decided to scrutinize is "unprotected sex."   I work at a pregnancy help center, and avoiding unprotected sex is a mantra which our clients hear from their schools, the media and the health department all day long.   Be sure to use birth control properly. That's the rule of today's religion du jur ... the religion that worships sexual Continue Reading