Debbie and Laurie were very close friends, and as such, they supported each other in the ups and downs of life. When Debbie's ten-year-old daughter was tragically killed in an accident, Laurie rose to the challenge. She provided the emotional support her dear friend needed. Being there for Debbie became Laurie's focus for a season, and understandably so. But something subtle happened inside her during that time. Something that wasn't good for her heart. You see, every time she faced something difficult, Laurie found herself comparing her suffering to Debbie's. And her pain Continue Reading
Why I Don’t Worry About Jinxes
Have you ever felt nervous about causing bad things to happen by mentioning a run of "good luck?" Have you kept quiet about how glad you feel that you haven't had car problems in six months, or no one in your home has gotten a cold this winter? This is another anti-biblical cultural paradigm that has crept into our thinking. I'll bet I've heard the phrase at least twice a week lately, sometimes from Christians. "I don't want to talk about (my hope, dream or blessing) in case I jinx it." Really? Recently, I read through the Pentateuch (the first five books of the Bible). In the middle of Continue Reading
Why I Refuse to Spoil My Grandchildren
It's a cute, common sentiment. Grandparents are softies towards grandchildren, so we talk about how much we enjoy spoiling them. Seems harmless enough. All we mean by it is we want to shower some affection on the little darlings, right? I have nothing against loving on your grandchildren. Reuel makes my day just by running for me shouting, "Nana!" when I come over. I melt when Aviella reaches for me, all smiles and wiggly fingers. I've looked forward to this season of life for years, this sweet reward after the intensive years of raising my own kids. But here's my issue with the Continue Reading
Why Christians Shouldn’t Hang Out With Certain People
I know what you’re thinking. Are you some kind of hater? Don’t you know Christians should be loving and non-judgmental? Now don't ya'll get your panties in a wad. I'll explain. I’m not targeting gays or liberals or fundamentalists, or any other groups taking potshots at each other. This is not about those arguments. I’m simply reflecting on Scripture passages that give us some relational limits -- all from the New Testament, by the way. Here's the thing: We love the idea of being gracious and inclusive. But in a culture that shouts, "Don't judge!" and insists there are no Continue Reading